As Valentines comes upon us most are planning special dates, finding the perfect card, or the perfect gift in hopes see their special someone smile out of pure love and happiness on that fateful day. As for the single spouse they may have already done this weeks ago, back when everyone was still excited and partying about News Years, just to make sure their special someone gets that special little gift right on time. As for myself my gift was a bit different and daring this year.
I stepped out of my comfort zone and did a Boudoir Shoot for Valentines Day. I do not like my body very much so I was terrified and nervous. For as many people that constantly tell me on a daily basis how pretty, beautiful, or even gorgeous I am, deep down that is the last thing I believe because unfortunately I have quite a few self image issues. Especially after some stressful and tragic life happened, that I will some day tell you about, I packed on the weight and then I packed on more weight. So naturally I haven’t felt very good about myself in a few years. But last year I lost 70 pounds and gained a bit of confidence back.
So as I tried my best to bypass my nerves i did my makeup and got dressed in my favorite shirt of my husband’s and started to follow the instructions for each pose. With every snap sound of the camera I became more and more nervous hoping they didn’t come out as ugly as I felt. And with every outfit change I started to feel more and more ridiculous. I couldn’t believe I was doing this. I mean who did I think I was? I wasn’t some super model trophy wife. I’m an over weight troubled gal covered in stretch marks who can’t get her life together enough to make it on time to anything. In my mind I had no way to look beautiful.
As we finished the shoot she showed me a few pictures and with every single one of them I found a flaw on me. It was either my hair, my arms, my face. I wasn’t even looking at the whole picture I was pin pointing and only looking at the flaws I knew would be there. But my photographer friend was not having it. She truly went above and beyond to make me comfortable and to give me confidence. I seriously couldn’t have asked for a better experience despite my insecurities.
On the way home I had a ruthless battle in my head between how ridiculous I was to trusting my friend and believing her that my pictures would be beautiful and then back to being so stupid to even think I was pretty enough to do something like that. I yelled at myself, STUPID, STUPID, STUPID. And start to think how my husband would hate them and think I was fat, ridiculous, and ugly. Eventually I put it out of my head. I had to! Or I was going to break myself down and never come out. But later on that evening I broke down in tears anyways.
I was getting ready to go to dinner with a long time friend when my my phone pinged for a notification. It was a message from my photographer friend. I saw that she sent a photo and I knew this was it. The battle started again but it was quickly over as I demanded myself to look at the entire photo rather than the areas I hate about myself. So I ripped the band aid off and opened it and immediately started crying. I could not believe my eyes or my heart! I looked so.. so beautiful! The photograph that captured a special moment was so incredible it physically brought tears to my eyes. So of course I absolutely had to share with my husband. All my anxieties went away immediately. He could not keep his eyes of my picture and told me how gorgeous I was. It felt so amazing to know that through his eyes I was beautiful and that he longs for me to be in his arms once again. And I honestly can not wait until tomorrow to share the rest of my gift with him. And even more so when he finally comes home.